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10/14/02
Hello 4 weeks ago
I found out I was pregnant with my fourth child scared only being 20 and not
married. I told my boyfriend of 5 years that I was pregnant yet again. He
told me that we where not ready to have a child seeing as though our
children we already have are only 6 years old 2 years old and 1 years old we
searched the web for a site about abortion we came upon this one we look at
the horrible pitchers and decided that we where
going to keep our baby. Now I am happily 2 months pregnant and cant wait for
our baby. I am due May 22, 2003 and we are more happy then we could ever be
though 4 kids will prove to be a challenge for us we know we are doing the
right thing. As a mater of fact my boyfriend aunt is pro-life and a play
director and they are doing a play on abortion
about a woman who decides to give life instead of abortion and I was asked
if I could play the pregnant woman and if my daughter could play the
child little Emma. We are more than proud to support the pro-life and I am
so happy that I changed our minds we can’t wait for little Samantha or
Zachary to be born.
Jessica |
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8/29/02
I have written you
twice, once when I was pregnant and once after my
daughter was born.
As an update, my daughter just turned a year old August 12th and she is a
lively, beautiful little girl. My little brother had me and my daughter as
guests in his health class over a debate on termination of a teen pregnancy
recently and I would like to tell you both sides of the story:
The argument against me was that I was 16, head cheerleader, honor roll
student and had scholarships out of the wazoo, and I got pregnant, lost it
all and I left the father due to domestic abuse. They asked me a question
that I have never thought twice about or even been asked...'why didn't I
abort her'? I looked at my daughter and she looked at me and smiled her
gorgeous smile at everyone and everyone knew why I didn't do it. I told them
that I remember the day I found out I was pregnant, I remember the first
heartbeat that I heard and I remember her showing her butt to the ultrasound
technician. The teacher expected me to tell them how hard it was and how it
messed up my life and all the negativity related to teen parenting...I loved
being pregnant, and I loved greeting MY daughter for the first time. I made
the same promise to her in the delivery room that I made to my stomach the
day I found out I was pregnant, "I love you, I am your mommy, I will always
be your mommy and I will do anything in my power to protect you, I will die
a thousands deaths so that you will never feel one ounce of pain." I didn't
disappoint the teacher though, I told her that I thought about abortion at
my lowest point, my boyfriend was beating up on me and he was denying
paternity, but even though I thought about it, I will never ever regret the
day the thought flashed through my head. I also told the class that though I
love my daughter with everything possible in a human being, it gets hard.
Babies aren't like dogs,you can't just give them water and food and let them
play by themselves, parenting is a 24/7/365 blessing. I say blessing because
the past year has gone by so quick and it's heartbreaking to know that my
baby, will be a young lady, then a woman, then a mother of her own and all I
will have is memories that will never ever fade away. The class gave me
questions, good questions too. Like Q:'What do you do when your schedule is
packed and the baby wants attention?' A: I give her my undivided attention.
Q: 'Is being a mom at 18 hard?' A: Only as hard as you make it. Q: 'How do
you take a shower alone during the day?' A: I don't, my daughter is always
in there with me.
All these questions made me realize how blessed I am to have my daughter.
But recently I learned that God gives life as well as he takes it...the hard
way. My best friend gave birth around the same time I did last year, back in
May, and this May she had a little girl who is 3 months old, but August 8th,
4 days before my daughters first birthday, we kissed my 15 month old
'nephew' good-bye for the last time. He had a wonderful life his short time
on Earth and I hope that all of this helps people realize that God has a
plan for every child. Mine opened the mind to close-minded people about how
abortions are okay and her child opened the eyes to the many who believe
that no matter how long they are alive, they are loved by the mother,
forever. I will always remember this boy's smile and his laugh, but God
decided that this angel needed his wings. So, to that one angel, 'I love you
always and thanks for blessing me for 15 months' and to my angel, 'Thank you
for your smiles and kisses, I love you Bug.'
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8/13/02
I was
already a single mother of a 15 month-old when I found out I was pregnant.
My daughter was quite a handful, and I had dropped out of college after her
birth. I had left her father because of domestic violence, and thought I
was "being careful" when I started an intimate relationship with the
following boyfriend. I actually knew I was pregnant a few days before an
early pregnancy test would detect it. I didn't know what on earth to do,
but felt confident that I would have my boyfriend's support. After
all, we lived together, and he told me how important I was to him.
He got out of the Marine Corps and left me there with my best friend, saying
he'd get things in order back in his home state and send for me. (he hadn't
told his parents about me yet) I took my test two days later. I told him I
was pregnant and was basically slapped in the face to learn he had another
girlfriend back home and had no intentions of ever being with me again. I
was utterly alone, and with a small child and another on the way. I called
around to find out about abortions, and I called to ask him for the money.
He was too eager for it! My best friend talked me out of the abortion idea,
and I changed my mind and was opting for adoption. Late in the pregnancy, I
decided that wasn't the choice for me either. My little Kaitlinn LiAna just
turned three on July 29, and her sister Katerina (almost 5) is her best
friend! They're both so wonderful! I am so glad to have them in my life.
I think they should make women look at pictures just like the ones on your
site before making a final decision on abortion. If I had seen these
pictures immediately upon the thought, I would never have asked him for the
money!!
I thank God every day that He changed my mind. I wouldn't be able to live
with myself after seeing your site. I currently go to college, and am on
the president's list with a 4.0 (cumulative) gpa. Single motherhood isn't
the end of a girl's life. It's actually only the beginning--what better
motivation than a little one that looks up to you and wants to mimic you? I
want to be a good example for them NOW, despite what I've done in the past.
I am attaching a picture of my lovelies!!
~Kim H. |
7/15/02
Hi! My name is Christy. I was reading over
your stories so I decided to share mine. Two years ago when I found out I
was pregnant abortion seemed the only way out for me. I was raised in a
christian home,and my grandfather was a preacher. I just knew everyone
would turn against me if they found out. I thought about enough and so
long that I finally convinced myself to kill my baby. One day I felt him
move and that's all It took. From then on I didn't care what anyone
thought or said, I didn't even care that I was going to have to raise it
alone, I was going to have this baby.THANK GOD I did. My son Noah is my
whole world and if I would have killed him I would never have gotten to
experience the most precious gift I will even recieve. Noah is 16 months
now and he has a new little sister. To anyone out there thinking of
terminating your pregnancy I beg you to please reconsider. That baby did
not get to choose to come to this world, the least any mother can do is
give it a chance, and if nothing else there are alot of people out there
that would love a child! God Bless everyone and please don't
KILL your baby!
Christy
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7/09/02
I got pregnant right
before I turned eighteen. I aborted my baby at 7 weeks due to the pressure
from my boyfriend. I became pregnant again by the same boyfriend
 within
the next year. This time I knew I could never go through an abortion ever
again. They fail to tell you the amount of PHYSICAL pain. It was horrible.
It was less painful to give birth to my daughter Kaya. She is now three and
is my life, my heart and my soul. I cant imagine my life without here. Today
at 22 I find myself pregnant again and still single. I plan to carry this
baby to term and make a decision to give her to another family or make it
work on my own. I WOULD never go through an abortion again. Thats how
horrible it is. I would rather struggle to make ends meet. I would rather
endure the sadness of handing my baby to adoptive parents than go through
that again. Attached is a picture of my beautiful daughter Kaya. She is a
BLESSING and so is her brother and sister in my womb.
Mama |
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6/24/02
I was 18 when I got
pregnant the first time. I was alone,the Father wanted nothing to do with a
pregnancy, and I am glad, it was for the better. My family wanted me to
abort, I stood my ground and said no. My pregnancy was horrible, I was sick
the whole time. The only way I "survived", was feeling my child move within.
On January 28, 1990, I gave birth to my Daughter Lindsay Kay. I was 19 when
she was born. My Family made the trip up to see her, and when my Father held
her close that first morning of her little life, he cried. See, Lindsay was
the first Granddaughter born, and she was born very special. She came into
this world sick. She was small, and her breathing was not good, but boy she
fought every of the way. She came home on time, but she continued to get
worse. She contracted TB Meningitis when she was 2 mths. We didn't know this
until she was almost dead, an in a coma when she was 9 mths. She isn't
supposed to be alive right now. Dr's said she would be severely brain
damaged, and never walk. Today, she is a Happy, Lively 12 yr old. She is on
Honor roll, and riding horses. Her Natural Father gave up rights to her,
when she was only 3. He couldn't deal with it. My Husband adopted her.
Lindsay has 1 brother, and 2 sisters. I could never have aborted, she is my
HERO. Yes, I gave her life, but she gave it back to me, and that is what
families are supposed to do. I truly can't say weather I am against or for
abortion. I do know for certain, that the ones who choose to terminate,
"just because", or played around a little to much, are the ones I don't care
for, to many people want babies. To me it seems abortion has been offered as
a gross convenience for allot people. I do in some way's understand when it
comes to the mother's health, and other life or death situations. I also
can't say how I would react if one of my Children were to get pregnant, and
choose abortion. I know I wouldn't like to idea, and I would offer to raise
the baby instead. I have known a couple of people who chose abortions, one
was because she just plain didn't care, and that child, a boy, died when he
was in the 7th month. The other, she was just 12, was raped. She wanted
badly to keep the baby, but back then, there was really no way for her to do
that. The abortion was a good thing. A few years later, she died of Aid's, a
result of the rape. The baby would have died also, this was before all the
new drug's. My life is complete, for me abortion was never a choice. I hope
a pray, more people choose life for their babies.
SN
Kansas |
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6/23/02
 My
daughter will be 2 years old in November. She was my fourth pregnancy
when I was 20 years old. I delivered 3 other healthy children and DID
NOT want another baby. I was going to get an abortion. I made
the appointment and wrote down the directions to get there and the
instructions to follow that day. I decided, after much serious
thought, not to go through with it. Right now, my daughter is with her
wonderful family in New York. I receive pictures and letters regularly. I
chose adoption for her instead. I still don't have another child to care
for, but she is alive and well and was very much wanted!!! Attached is her
with her 2 older brothers.
Jennifer |
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6/13/02
When my mom was 19
years old she found out she was pregnant. The only thinking
she could think of doing was to get an abortion. Something that seemed to be
a way out of her just beginning life. She graduated high school and was
working full time then.. So she went to have an abortion done. When they
performed it they got what they called a product of conception. Ok done my
mom was "unpregnant" she went back to her life thinking that she was fine.
months later about 2 she was working for the greater Hartford open...a golf
tourney in Conn. She was laying down fences, platforms and doing a lot of
vigorous exercise and stressful work. Very hard on the body. What she didn't
know is that the baby she tried to kill was still alive. She ended up with a
fever the week of the tourney and went to the hospital with back pains. The
doctor asked if she thought maybe she was pregnant. She said No. She found
out she was, but they tried to tell her that I was a different baby. But the
length of time between the "abortion": and then was not the same as my fetus
development. So she decided to have me. I was born premature at 2lbs 8oz.
She
just told me this story a few weeks ago...I am 18years old and it was time
for her to reveal this secret she kept from me. Now my relationship with
God
is much tighter due to the fact that He spared me for some purpose and for
his perfect plan. So that is my story.
MyK |
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6/11/02
My abortion was on 5-3-2002 very
recent and will always remain recent in
my heart. I want to share this with anyone who is considering abortion
out of the fear they feel. I am 31 almost 32 I am a single mother of a 4
year old boy, I am separated from my husband for over a year and am in
another relationship. I became pregnant from this relationship in the
very beginning of April 2002. Obviously we chose to abort. There were so
many reasons, we both had all these different reasons and they seemed
like good reasons. One night we recognized that all these reasons were
just about ourselves, what we wanted, how the baby would disrupt our
lives and our goals. Me,Me,Me. I knew abortion was wrong and deep down I
didn’t want to do it. I just kept focusing on the fear I felt. I was so
scared ....what would my family think? How will my husband react? What
about the nursing program I'd just enrolled in? What if my boyfriend
doesn’t stick around? Everyone will be so disappointed in me for getting
pregnant when not divorced and in another relationship? How will I afford
another baby while still in school? I really felt like I could not have
this baby. I had convinced myself and justified that I was only 5.5
weeks along when the abortion was done and that was some how better and
that it would be o.k. When I laid down on the table with my legs open so
that my cervix could be opened enough for the suction I did nothing but
cry it was painful, but the emotional pain was worse. I cried because I
knew this was more than a mistake, it was taking somebody’s life away.
When the suction began I felt my baby die and part of me died write
there with my baby, because that baby was part of me and I allowed
someone to kill this part of me. As soon as it was over all those reasons
I had for getting the abortion meant nothing, nothing, I can't say it
with enough emphasis. Those reasons were like a tiny obstacle compared to
what I made them out to be. I could have had my baby and I would have
provided for this child and I would have loved this child as I love the
son I have now. Both the father and I have cried many times over the loss
of our baby and I'm sure we will forever. It doesn’t just hurt the
mother, though there is a deeper sense of loss I feel. I feel I have
taken part of my family away a grandbaby, a sister or brother, a cousin,
a niece, a nephew, a person to know and love. When I picture my baby I
don’t just picture an infant I picture a toddler, a young child, a
teenager, an adult having there own children. This was a choice that was
based on selfish desires nothing else. As I would have lived with the
choice of giving life and receiving many happy times I will also forever
live with the choice of taking life and never feeling a happy moment
about it.
In memory and in my heart forever and always my tiny baby "APRIL"
may others be saved through your loss.
Love mom. |
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